when something happens that is drug up from the past you have been avoiding is it god giving you a precious gift to live happily ever after or is the devil testing to see if you can really hold out????

Why are the challenges at times do sneaky??? Like the answer is right in front of your face.. Or is it??? is this a test to see if you can continue avoiding it or is it finally time for you to settle the past and move forward????
UGHHH how do you decipher the two???